Thomas Dunbar, 69, of Woodbridge, passed away peacefully, though unexpectedly, on Monday, October 2nd, 2023, at home. He was the loving husband, soulmate, and best friend of Kit LaFumee Dunbar and they would have celebrated their 39th wedding anniversary on October 6th, 2023. When asked, “How did they meet? Tom loved to say “I put an ad in the newspaper and she answered it!” They worked together for a short time and later that turned into their love story, 3 children and soon to be 10 grandchildren. Tom was always so charismatic and made others smile and laugh often. If you knew him, you loved him. He was kind, caring, loving, and smart as a whip, building, owning and operating a successful company from the ground up. Tom was born in New Haven on February 5, 1954, and was the son of the late Richard Dunbar, Sr., the late Eleanor (Molleur) Dunbar Dattilo and stepson of the late Anthony Dattilo. Tom served his country faithfully and dutifully in the US Navy during the Vietnam era. As an adult, Tom worked for many years as a Roofer, a salesman, and later was an owner/operator of the former United Sewer & Drain. A former member of the Hamden Fish & Game, Tom enjoyed fishing with family and friends. He enjoyed hunting and learned and taught many survival skills and got his certification as a captain. His greatest joys included going out to dinner with his wife, and spending time with his children and grandchildren who he loved unconditionally. He loved to watch the Mets, Giants and the UConn Girls. Father of Crystal Teal (Scott), Jamie Susi (Anthony) and Kelly Dunbar (Dan DeCamillo). Loving grandpa of Cole, Jackson, Eleanor, Claire, Hannah, Anthony, Nicholas, Gianna, Maple, and another expected in May of 2024. Loving brother of Laura McDonald (Rodger), Denise Metcalf and the late Richard Dunbar, Jr. Predeceased by his brother-in-law Edwin LaFumee. Loving uncle of Michael, Eddie, Damian, Sean, Holly, Rodge, Alec and had many great nieces and nephews. He also leaves many close friends that were dear to him and some that passed before him.
Family and friends are invited for visiting hours that will be Sunday, Oct. 8th from 3:00 to 5:00 PM at The Havens Family North Haven Funeral Home, 36 Washington Avenue. A parlor service will follow at 5:00 PM. at the funeral home. The Interment with full military honors will be private, in Eastside Cemetery, Woodbridge, the following day.
What can I say,we worked and we laughed till we cried,I have so many memories I’ll always remember,you were a great man , husband and father and we talked often about your family.ill miss you buddy I’m sorry I live so far away,there’s a lot of sky here so I’ll be looking up talking to you.Rest easy my friend your going to be missed.
Sending you all my thoughts, love and prayers at this difficult time. I’m am truly sorry for your loss of such a wonderful man. 😢
I am sorry I will not be able to attend, I’m leaving tomorrow for a week. Crystal and Scott I will see you immediately when I get back.
Love Susan and Ryan and family💙🙏💙🙏
Sorry for your loss
The Gehm Family
Kit, you are one of the kindest people I have had the pleasure of knowing. Although I did not know Tom, I am sure he was as kind and caring as you are. My heart breaks for you and your wonderful family. I am glad his legacy will continue in your girls and all those incredible grandchildren. May you have the strength to deal with this sad time and find peace in all the wonderful years you enjoyed together.
With love and sympathy,
Marianne
Kit and Family
I am so sorry to hear of your loss and offer my heartfelt condolences to all of you. May Tom’s memory remain in your hearts forever. May you and your entire family find comfort in your fond memories of the time spent together.
When I heard the news I was devastated, but what puts me at ease is knowing that he’s up there with my father and now they can all watch over us together as I know that they are. Aunt kit, you told me the other day that my father called Tom his brother, I believe that fully and I know if he said it then he meant it. I know that they are now enjoying each other’s company and are making sure we are all safe and good to go here on Earth. We love you guys so much, miss you guys, and think about you guys often. I know it’s rough but one step at a time one day at a time. We love you guys
Not only is Tom my brother, he was a wonderful man.
He knew how to talk with people because he listened and genuinely cared.
Tom was patient. All he wanted was the best for everyone.
His family is where he shined. Kit and the girls were his world
Tom was patient and loving. He was the kindest man I’ve have ever known. I was blessed.
I love you Tom, you will forever be my Hero.
Your Little Sis,
Denise
Dear Kit and family,
We are deeply saddened by the news of Tom’s passing. Kit, you are a beautiful, kind, sensitive and the most loving person I’ve ever met. You and Tom were blessed having one another for 39 years. Your love story lives on in your heart and he will always be with you. Our family is sending love and prayers during this dark time. We love you!!!
Amy, Rick, Jace, Austin and Ava ❤️
My deepest, heartfelt condolences to you all. I have such fond memories of Tom. I will always remember our little community when your kids and mine were little. The birthday parties and how we all sat around on our front porches while the kids played. I know how much he will be missed, and how unbearably sad this is now. He will always live on in your hearts and memories. ❤️
Death is something we don’t “get over” but you will learn to live with it in the future. May the Good Lord welcome him as one of his own.
Kit, I am sending my love and prayers to you and your family. I remember how close and loving a family you enjoyed together. I am so sorry for your great loss and wish you peace.
I wish i could explain to you all how much This entire family meant to is. Lead by the incomparable Tom. He accepted and loved us from day one. Wihat an awesome leagcy he has left us 💞
Our heart-felt condolences are with you and your family
The Bolton family
Sending my heartfelt condolences to the entire Dunbar Family at this most difficult time. May your memories and father’s legacy be forever present.
Kit,
I’m so so sorry to hear about Tom. He always made me laugh. I hope your new normal will not be too terribly painful. Goes without saying, I’m thinking of you.
Marge