Thomas Raymond Legenhausen could be defined by his love of family, education and music. Born in Queens, New York, he was the son of Carl and Marilyn Legenhausen. From an early age, it was clear that he had a keen intellect. Love of learning and music would be a theme throughout his life.
Tom is survived by his wife of 47 years, Millie Cintron Legenhausen, his children David Legenhausen (Meredith) and Sara Jeanne Livingston (Neill Sanford), brother Gary Legenhausen (Heidi), niece Flora DiMonda and nephew Ali Legenhausen. Tom and Millie met in 1974 as freshman at Cornell University, where they majored in history. They married on November 26, 1976 in New York City. Tom graduated from New York University School of Law in 1980 and began his career at Legal Aid Appellate Division. A position at Wiggin and Dana brought the family to New Haven in 1986. Tom would eventually move to practice law in the insurance industry, finishing out his career after 25 years at The Hartford. A diagnosis of pancreatic cancer and subsequent treatment made it necessary for him to retire earlier than he had anticipated from a job he truly enjoyed. He continued to be in touch with colleagues until very recently.
Tom was a teacher at heart. He loved the Law and enjoyed sharing his knowledge with younger lawyers at work. He had many interests, including reading about history and science, and playing music. At the end of the workday, he would unwind by playing banjo, fiddle and guitar. His major focus in life, however, was taking care of his family. It gave him great pleasure to see his children graduate college, marry wonderful people, and thrive. He also enjoyed travel and dining. Sharing a home cooked meal at the house with friends was one of his favorite activities.
Tom lived a life of gratitude. He often expressed how blessed he was, having a strong family and many devoted friends. He was a generous man, supporting organizations that work for the greater good. In lieu of flowers, he requested that donations be made to the Clifford Beers Child Guidance Clinic in New Haven, which has served children and their families in Connecticut for generations.
A funeral mass will be held at Trinity Church on the Green in New Haven, on Thursday, December 7th at 11 a.m., with a reception following the service. Burial at Grove Street Cemetery will be private.
My dear, sweet friend! I am so very sorry to hear of your husband’s passing! I am praying for you and your precious family! ♥️🙏🏼♥️
Sorry for your loss! Mr A.
Millie, I am so sorry. My thoughts goes out to you and your family. Tom was a wonderful guy.
Please take care of yourself and hopefully one day we can get together. Your old friend, Roland
Dear Millie- prayers and thoughts for you and your family and our deepest condolences.
I lost the note you had left me in the S&S parking lot that day so I never got to text you. I would love to meet you for coffee some time when you are ready. Take care. So sorry!
My number is 203-804-6970.
Dear Millie and family.
I am so very sorry to be sending my condolences to you all on the passing of Tom. You’ve always had and have always demonstrated the importance of family as you and Tom lived it so well. His life was so full. Hold those memories close to your hearts. I know those memories will be a blessing. Peace and Love! Val Joyce